Do I Have A Problem?
This is a very common question among those people who tend to drink more so then others do. If we were talking about the past, say, 1987-1989 I would have to say yes. That is if we are talking about me. Maybe even earlier then 1987, probably more like 1985. My favorite saying was I don’t have a drinking problem, I drink, I get drunk, I fall down, no problem.
Today If were to say that phrase, then I would definitely think that I have a drinking problem. So, do I have a problem? The answer is a big fat no. I do not have a problem with drinking alcohol. I still drink every once in a while, a beer or two. Maybe I will have a cocktail every now and again. If you are going out and drinking till you pass out on someone’s lawn, then I would say that you have a drinking problem. Would’nt you? A few year’s back, I was told a story of what used to happen in Virginia. The Norfolk area to be more specific. This is where there is a big naval base. The residents of the town would have signs on their lawns. These signs would say dogs and sailors keep off the grass. They were coming out in the morning to get their paper, and were finding sailors in uniform passed out on the lawn. Thankfully this never happened to me.
Fixing The Problem:
If you think that you may have a drinking problem, there is help for you. You are not alone in this situation. There are millions of people on this planet, that have the same issue. All you need to do is take that first step, this is the big step. Admit that you have a drinking problem. After you admit having a problem, the rest is a walk in the park. I know how you feel, I have been there myself.
One day, I woke up and said to myself, John, what the heck are you doing to yourself? Then I answered myself, you are killing yourself. I did not go to alcoholics anonymous meeting, I simply dealt with the problem myself. After all, at the time I had not hurt anyone other than myself. Unless, you want to count my naval career. It is my belief that if I was not struggling with alcohol addiction, I would have stayed in the navy and made a life of it.
After, you admit that you have a drinking problem, it is time to seek some help. Ask a friend for help, chances are that he, or she is willing to walk you to a meeting. Now, there is nothing to be ashamed of. ALCOHOLISIM IS A DISEASE. One that can take everything that you hold near and dear in your life. I was lucky enough to figure this out before the wife and kids came along. So, please if you think you have a drinking problem, go get some help before it is too late.
Take It From Me:
do you still want to have a cocktail or two? This is how it happened for me by the way. After, I admitted that I had a drinking problem, I still was able to enjoy a cocktail or two now and then. I just did not go overboard like I used to. If I was not still drinking, I probably would’nt be writing about alcohol.
You can take a page from my book, and still be able to enjoy some drinks with friends and family. If you are drinking to the point that no one wants to be around you, then you definitely need to take a step back and seek professional help. This is just my opinion though. You can listen to me, or you can ignore me. It is your choice. Get some help, or lose everything around you. Your family, your home, your car, and your dignity. Alcoholics anonymous is a great place to start.
Not Into The 12 Step Program:
So, you do not want to do a 12 step program, I don’t blame you, neither did I. Once I finally realized that I had a problem with alcohol, I was able to get a handle on it, and keep it under control. Even, after, I got out of the navy, and came home to raise a family. A 12 step program is geared towards people that have caused harm to others due to their drinking. And, the person that I harmed was myself. I did not think that I had to do a 12 step program to make amends to myself, do you?
If you ask me as long as you have done no harm to anyone else, there is no reason for a 12 step program. Just take it one day at a time like I do. This way you can still enjoy a drink or two once in a while. That is the key to my solution for this problem. Have a drink once in a while, not every day. We have the ability to change, we just have to want to make the change in our lives for the better. Going down the same spiraling road will lead us to nowhere in a hurry. I was one of the lucky ones, while I was still in the navy, I was able to attend ( NADSAP) navy alcohol, drug, substance abuse program. This is where I learned that I had a problem, and how I learned to control it. It was a five-day mandatory class for the entire command. Everyone on the ship had to go to the class at one time or another. I thank god for this class, I believe it saved my life.
Now I am free of the drinking abuse, however, I still have a cocktail once in a while. Usually on the holidays like Christmas and new year’s eve. I still kick back with a beer on the weekends, or have a glass of wine with my beautiful wife.
Remember, Please drink responsibly, and do not drink and drive, love John D.
Have a blessed day my friends.