There was a time in my life that I felt so alone, and did not know where to turn for help and or comfort. Hence, the reason that I sat in a bar just to not feel lonely. Thinking back, it probably would have been better if I had gone to talk to the chaplain on my ship that I was stationed on. Today I will dive into what drove me to drink, I hope that this article will be helpful for you. And maybe, you will not make the same mistake as I did.
That Lonely Feeling:
This story takes place many years back, when I was still a kid. Well, a nineteen-year-old kid. I was stationed on the USS MIDWAY, it was pretty much my first time being away from home. With the exception of basic training. And this was my first duty station. It is my belief that it would not have been so bad, had I not been sent to Yokuska Japan.
Not only was this my first time away from home, but it was also my first time out of the United States. Perhaps, now, you can understand why I felt so lonely. Yes, you can feel all alone, even when you are on a ship that has three thousand other men on board. I know it sounds crazy, but, it is very possible to feel this way.
By now, you are probably thinking that I have plum lost my mind, that there is no way to be alone on a ship full of people. I can understand your way of thinking, especially if you have never been in that situation. Let me let you in a little secret, there are a lot of men and women serving in the United States military, here, as well as abroad. And, I guarantee you that some of them are at this time feeling like they are alone. Especially at this time of the year, with the holidays just around the corner.
Dealing With The Problem:
There are some ways for you to deal with the problem. One way to take care of the issue is to not follow the way that I dealt with my issues. Which was to go into a bar and crawl into a bottle. Meaning to start drinking, and not stop until the bar closed, or I started to become sick to my stomach.
Waking up the next morning with a terrible headache is not the best way to start the morning, Plus the vomiting is not fun either. Trust me, I have been there and done that. I do not want to go there ever again. Although that feeling of euphoria, that you get from drinking does feel pretty good once in a while.
How do we deal with this problem, without getting three sheets to the wind? Let me make this suggestion, find someone to talk to. Get everything that you are feeling out in the open. Keeping your feelings bottled up, can do more harm than good. Trust me on this one, you can not drown your problems. You are only making things worse for yourself, sure you will feel great while under that buzz, however your problem is still going to be there the next morning. Remember that I said that I have been there and done that? Believe me or not, I know how you are feeling. I should tell you, I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on television. I am just some guy, who has gone through this situation before, and only want to help in way that I possibly can.
Who To Talk To:
Who you talk to in entirely up to you. So long as you talk to someone. My best recommendation for someone to talk to would be your clergy man. If you happen to be in the military, I’m sure that can find a chaplain somewhere on your command. Every ship, or unit in the military has a chaplain for you to talk to. He or she can be very helpful to you.
Do not be afraid to go and seek guidance from a member of the clergy. They can offer you more help than a bottle of liquor can. Sounds funny coming from someone who writes about drinking does’nt it? Well sometime even I need to take a step back and reflect.
Not in the military, and need to talk to someone? Then I would say to you to get the help you need from a psychiatrist. However, you as well can go to a church and talk to a priest. That is what they are there for. To help you and guide you from the evils of alcohol. Yes I do sell alcohol on here, but I can still tell you a little of my past. That’s right, I too had a problem with alcohol addiction. Depending on who you talk to, some might say that I still have the addiction problem. If you ask me, I will tell you that I have it under control. Especially if we look back to the 80s. The late 80s to be exact. While I was in Japan, I got the call that no one wants. My mother had passed away. From that day on, I did nothing but drink. And, drink very heavy, to a point that it cost me my career in the navy. But, we will not get into that. It was my fault, and no one else. Do not let that happen to you.
Another way to get some help is to talk to a friend or two. Eventually I found someone to talk to that was not pouring me a shot of bourbon. Then I got out of the Navy, came home and got married, had some children. That is what saved me from losing all control and letting the devil take my hand. Now I look to the sky for answers, and I usually get them. The lord does truly work in mysterious ways.
Staying On Track:
This is hard part, staying on track. Once you have gone and got some help, no matter how you did it. you took the first step by admitting that you have a problem. That may have seemed like the hard part. The hard part is just getting started and that is staying on track. It is very easy to fall down, and not get back up.
Recovery is a very long and winding road. Not everyone can navigate the twists and turns that it takes to stay on track. For some of you, it may take going to an alcohol anonymous meeting. Don’t shoot the messenger, I’m just trying to help. In my case, I was able to gain control when I got back home and got married. This may not be the case with you, you may need to be talking to someone on a constant basis. AA can provide that for you. There are plenty of places that hold meetings, chances are that a friend of yours is going through the same problem. They will know where to go, just ask a friend. Or, you can always do a search online to find where they have meetings.
Please if you are ready to get the help that you need, find a meeting place, and go to one. It just may be exactly what you need. After all that is what AA is there for. If it is not your thing, you can try to do it on your own. This does not always work though. I hope that this article helps you in some way.
I believe that what we need now, more than ever, is love sweet love. A lot of people are struggling in one way or another. If you know someone who needs help, please do what you can to help them. That is what should be done, help each other in whatever way we can.
Remember to drink responsibly, and never drink and drive the life you save may very well be your own. Sincerely: Your friend John D. Have a blessed day friends.